Is a Relationship Really Necessary?

Relationships are practically everywhere these days. There within your group of friends, around public outings and even at Church services. As you see these relationships form into more detailed things, the thought of your singleness approaches. You view yourself as a lonely fool with no one to share each awkward moment in your life, and thus it results in depression and shutting out all your friends. But, I am here to tell you something that comes from, not my words but God’s. Although having a boyfriend or a girlfriend maybe fun, but the real reason why we have them is to fill a void of emptiness we carry or to show others that we aren’t alone in the weirdness we have.

Why should that be our reasons though? Why should our own human desires be the reason we should want a boyfriend or girlfriend in our lives? Two words: It shouldn’t. Our desires, our personal problems, shouldn’t cause us to want someone in our lives just to make us feel better. That’s called using others for our own problems, when clearly, they clearly have their own problems to deal with. (Perhaps that is why I am still single…) God did not put us on this earth to desire another persons affections full time, we are here to glorify and enjoy Him, not man. Because that isn’t what were doing if we choose to want something we cannot achieve on our own demand. Boyfriends and girlfriends aren’t demands, their people, and treating them like people is something we should all be doing, not treating them like trash or worse: objects.

So the question is: is a relationship really necessary? Yes and no. For some, God calls people together and for others God calls people singleness. In reality, a relationship with someone isn’t really necessary, it’s just filling the gap, a wanting if you will. That is why I urge those who are single, to pray, pray that God will indeed find that special person for you and myself. As for now, we single folk can enjoy life as see fit, even if everyone you see is with someone. Because you know what, God has a plan for our lives in the future, and wondering if we’ll ever be with someone isn’t going to help us grown into a mature adult in Christ. Worrying about what will happen next, if we’ll have a boyfriend or girlfriend, or if Civil War is going to appear in theaters, isn’t going to help us. What is going to help us, is prayer, enough said.

Now that I’ve cleared that up, and that I’ve come to conclusion that one day I will have someone special, but today is not that day. Soon though…very soon.

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“A little bit of earth, a little bit of alien, and little bit of….whatever the heck that is.”

Ewan McGregor.

Just a little update on my life and everything in it. Don’t worry I am still alive, so if you think I am dead or fell down a rabbit hole, you’re wrong.

~~Fair is over, finally.

~~Both of my friends had their 16th birthdays.

~~My love for Star Wars has come back!!

~~Summer is ending.

~~Giving relationship advice to my friend.

~~Starbucks ❤

~~My squad of friends ❤ {I’ve reached Squad Goals}

~~Shopping with my best friend and her boyfriend.

~~Having blue highlights in my hair.

~~Finished Ouran Highschool Host Club 😦

~~My laptop has been fixed!! Thanks to my dad 🙂

~~Renfest is next month!

~~Watched the new Hetalia series.

~~Justice League

~~Blue Bloods ❤

~~I have a new love for My Chemical Romance :))

~~Stargate SG-1 ❤

~~Getting back into writing fanfiction again.

~~Saw the Fantastic Four, and hated it… It was terrible you guys.

~~Still working on my book and other stories that I have.

~~My cat Percy and his sister Annabeth got fixed yesterday, finally.

Well I think that is it. Lots of stuff happened over the summer and some of it was bad, some of it was. But it’s a good thing that I have Christ and great people in my life to make me smile. Also, enjoy the Ewen McGregor picture 😉

Quote is from Doctor Who ❤

“Maybe that’s what the internet wants us to think!!”

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Today, I was thinking about how many people that I know amongst my friends, have a significant other. As for myself, who is the oldest out of the group, does not. Although being single is great, I kinda feel left out here and there when it comes to having someone special like that. I means just recently, I helped one of my closest and amazing friends with relationship thing and I’m not even in one. It helped her, but it also made me feel a little lonely. When I see some of my friends holding hands, talking and getting to know their significant other, I realize why I haven’t gotten that yet. Why am I still in the single circle with the rest of single friends? But then, it hit me. I was wanting what I wanted, not what God wanted. This whole time I was complaining to myself that I was the problem for not having someone one, and guess what? I was absolutely right. 

My loneliness caused me to think that I’ll never find someone or that God will never give the right person for me, thus leading me to feel envious of my friends who have those significant others. I mean I like people, but my liking for those people only for so far. Because it doesn’t help my emotions nor does it really help the other person. Again, I am back to ‘Its my problem’. God already has a plan for my life, why should I be worrying about it? Well, because I am not a perfect creature so I am going to worry that I’ll never find someone. But I shouldn’t, I really shouldn’t worry at all. That’s were this verse comes into play.

For I know that plans I have for you, declares The Lord, plans for welfare and not evil, to give you a future and a hope.”  Jeremiah 29:11

With that being said, I shouldn’t be lonely or envying my friends and their significant others. I should be happy being single, and I should be praising God for what He has brought into my life, then instead of putting it down. So, my friends can joke around that I don’t have a boyfriend, but honestly I’m kinda glad I don’t have one…because I doubt he’ll be able to handle a weirdo like myself everyday. But who knows? Only God does, and I’m glad that He has put my life together one day at a time.

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I do realize that this post is rather short, but I haven’t had the time to sit a write a whole rant on this specific subject. Hopefully I got my point across with these few paragraphs and sleep deprived words. I appreciate you reading and listen to me go on and on about random things. Thank you guys! I may not blog every single day, but I have been getting it together one step at a time.