As seen above, two people are holding hands in a romantic gesture type of way. It’s awe worthy, but something most single people scoff at because they themselves don’t have someone to hold hands with, make breakfast for and share coffee with. It leaves a emptiness inside for the single folk, like myself. But as you look closer, those two people actually love each other and enjoy spending their time outside of their normal elements.
Where am I actually getting at with this? When it comes to couples, you see two sides: marriage and a toy. Each are different from one another, and each stand for certain things. Let’s start with the second one, shall we. A boyfriend shouldn’t be someone to you that will fulfill you deepest desires of a relationship; aka filling a gap. That said boyfriend should love you for who you are, what you stand for and how you react towards others. Most importantly that boyfriend should believe in the same things you believe in; religion, politics etc. The boy isn’t your toy that you can slap on a Facebook profile and state that he is yours, it simply doesn’t work that way. If you are going into a relationship simply just to fill an empty gap, then you might want to reflect on the choices you’re about to make with the boy.
A relationship isn’t a toy, it’s a serious thing between a man and a woman.
A boyfriend is not someone you can line up and choice which one you want to go out with a this specific day. Ladies, this isn’t an episode of the Bachalorette. Whatever boy comes are way, and decides to stick with you til the end is surely a keeper, but if he is someone who likes to bounce around woman just for the fun of it then ditch him. That’s leads me to my next point in this post.
You do not need to be with someone if there only in it for your body. The Bible simply states that the body of a woman belongs only to her husband, and body of the man belongs to the wife.
Now concerning the matters about which you wrote: “It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” 2 But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3 The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 1 Corinthians 7:1-4
A relationship is about keeping both you walk with Christ and his in check and also strengthening as well.
That’s is why it is super, super important to stay pure within a relationship. Dating someone, like most do, isn’t about who gets in bed first. It’s about growing together in Christ, and see how He leads you both in your lives both separately and together. You can stomp your feet and say, “Well that isn’t how I was raised and what not.” But ladies and men, jumping around until you find the right guy or girl will only lead to heart break and distrust. So please, guard your hearts from foolishness and malice, because seeing through a relationship with open eyes can help you win a healthy relationship with both God first and then with that significant other.
A relationship shouldn’t keep us from our family, friends and school. It isn’t a distraction from the mundane life we have.
(Sorry for not posting in a while, I haven’t gotten any inspiration lately for my blog…)